Let them know that you are there to listen to them<\/u> and to help them<\/u> in any way that you can.<\/p>\n Let them know they have nothing to fear from you<\/u> and remind them of their safety<\/strong>.<\/p>\n Be supportive, encouraging, and loving<\/u> if they do choose to respond. Try speaking to them and asking questions in the present tense<\/strong> before asking about their past. Bring them into the present moment and give them time to focus.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re planning on going to a location with a history, DO YOUR RESEARCH<\/strong>. Learn about who the ghost was, their career, interests, hobbies, and loved ones<\/u>. Create a spirit life box.<\/p>\n A spirit life box<\/strong> is a simple wooden box containing items that the ghost may find familiar like:<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Do not pretend to understand what they are going through, you can\u2019t<\/u>. Do not expect them to open up right away, they may not<\/u>. It may take them hours, even days to feel comfortable with you enough to respond. This means you will have to visit a location several to many times<\/strong>. Be patient and invest time and effort.<\/u><\/p>\n If you enter a room they are in and you sense that they immediately left the room, set up in that room<\/u>. They were likely in that room due to familiarity<\/strong> and a sense of security<\/strong>. Give them time to calm down and see that you\u2019re not a threat and they will return<\/u>.<\/p>\n Be respectful.<\/strong> Even though you are there to observe, do not treat ghosts like they are a sideshow attraction. BE HUMAN.<\/strong> Take along some games like a deck of cards, dice, jacks, or board games<\/u>.<\/p>\n If you bring a family member or friend to join in on the experience talk quietly<\/u> among yourselves, share life stories<\/u>, and laugh quietly<\/u> when appropriate. Show the ghost you are sticking around for a while but that you can still be respectful of their space.<\/strong><\/p>\n DON\u2019T PUSH.<\/strong> Ask them if they want to talk about what they are feeling, thinking, or experiencing in the present; they can hear you from the other room<\/u>.<\/p>\n If you notice a response, respond to it<\/strong>. Let the ghost know what you heard, how you heard it, and what your interpretation of that response is<\/u>. Allow time for the ghost to correct misinterpretations.<\/p>\n If you appear to be startled by their responses, they may not continue to do so. It\u2019s better to act like you were expecting that random noise rather than overreacting to it.<\/strong><\/p>\n Try to sense what they are feeling and be mindful<\/strong> of non-verbal cues and responses such as any:<\/p>\n Ask them what you can do to help them<\/strong>, let them know that you are there for them<\/u>, not the other way around. It could be anything from explaining how they died, if you know, to communicating something to a living loved one.<\/p>\n If it\u2019s something they want like a photo, get it, and come right back<\/strong>. Print it out and leave it there for them. \u00a0The more you know about their history the more prepared you\u2019ll be to have the item they want with you and the more prepared you will be to ask relevant questions<\/u>.<\/p>\n There are so many reasons why a ghost may choose to not cross-over into the afterlife, and it could be as simple as needing to know that their family is OK.<\/p>\n Things to ask and say:<\/strong><\/p>\n Things to avoid asking and saying:<\/strong><\/p>\n And lastly, people need the most support on special days<\/strong>. Visit the ghost on the anniversary of their birth or death, or maybe the birth of their children, but be sensitive to the occasion. Let them know you are there for them, even if it is only your presence and comfort you can offer them.<\/p>\n If you know absolutely nothing about the ghost<\/strong> you will have a lot more detective work to do, which means you will need more time<\/u> working with them and far more patience<\/u> because you will have nothing familiar to offer them upfront, and very little to use to build trust<\/u>.<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"http:\/\/qpsychics.com\/center\/membership\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/ghost-safe-zone.png\")
<\/a>However, they are people that may need a little encouragement in order to build trust.<\/p>\n\n
<\/a>Things the ghost once owned<\/u>, either things they actually owned or common household objects that are from the period of time when they were living.<\/li>\n<\/a>These are things they are likely to have an emotional connection too, which will make it more likely for them to want to physically interact with them and you.<\/p>\n<\/a>Different things may \u201cspeak\u201d to them at different times, so put as many things in the life box as possible and leave the lid off<\/u>.<\/p>\n<\/a>Imagine your response if you had been lost and confused and had not seen a photo of your wife<\/strong> in 20 years.<\/p>\n<\/a>Or, imagine your response if you were a little kid and hadn\u2019t played with a toy<\/strong> in many years.<\/p>\n<\/a>Talk a little bit about their history but avoid any topics that may cause feelings of anger or guilt, such as focusing on how they died. Instead, try to focus on how they lived<\/u><\/strong>.<\/p>\n<\/a>Everyone likes to tell their story<\/u> to those who are willing to listen, even the dearly departed.<\/p>\n<\/a>Real, vivid responses require patience, familiarity, and trust. <\/strong>If you offer to help them in any way you can, keep going back until you can<\/u>. Do not make promises, stick around for a couple of hours, and never go back. Giving hope to the hopeless and ripping it out from under them is cruel. They are people too.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/a>Be patient.<\/u> Some ghosts will wander off to collect themselves and make sense of your presence. If you give them their space, a lot of space<\/strong>, and don\u2019t chase after them, they may be \u201cchattier\u201d later after they work up the courage to interact with you and think about their past.<\/p>\n<\/a>Avoid asking a question, and when no response is had, moving on to another. It may take a long while for the ghost to focus on the question and figure out the best way to communicate the answer. Asking <\/u>too many questions<\/u><\/strong> over a short period of time will only frustrate. <\/u>Getting a response from a nervous ghost is 10% asking questions, and 90% being patient.<\/p>\n<\/a>Smile, relax, stay calm, and be friendly.<\/strong> They can sense your emotions, read your body language, and are likely to be calmer if you are too. Avoid displaying shock or fear<\/u>.<\/p>\n\n
<\/a>Be knowledgeable about the events that followed their death <\/strong>if possible. For example, if their spouse has since died, let them know where, when, and how. If their children are still alive, find out about recent events (example \u201cYour daughter Sue just had a baby girl. She named her Rebecca.\u201d<\/em> and bring a photo of the baby).<\/p>\n\n
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